The random musings of an autistic bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.
Asking for Help
In mid-July I’m having outpatient surgery on my wrist. It’s fairly routine, but I’ll be home recovering for a week. This has me rattled. It’s my dominant hand, and I have no idea how truly incapacitated I will be.
Will I be able to open jars? Medicine bottles? I’ll open them in advance. Will I be able to cook? I’ll make casseroles that will be easy to heat up. Or maybe a big pot of spaghetti. And there’s always pizza delivery. I won’t wear anything with zippers. I’ll do all my shopping in advance.
Still, it’s scary to think of being even the least bit helpless when I have little or no support in this town. A coworker is actually driving me to the surgery. And my neighbors would come if I shouted out the bedroom window. They’re really nice. I have also made a few acquaintances.
I just hate to bother anybody. That would even be the case if I were back in Florida where I had plenty of friends around. I’m used to having to rely on myself.
And yet, if someone were to ask for my help, I’d give it without hesitating. Why don’t I think I deserve that same treatment? Why do I think that others would not be just as generous?
Maybe I need to be reminded that it’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to not have everything under control.
9 thoughts on “Asking for Help”
Helping others is built into our core fabric as humans. As people, we let our emotions deter us from asking. Good job asking for help, now watch them come.
Thanks Paul! It definitely won’t come naturally to me, but I think it’s a skill I need to learn.
Good luck with the surgery Barb! We’ll be thinking about you and hoping all goes smoothly!
Thanks Helen! It’s apparently very routine. But then that’s easy to say until it’s about to happen to you! 🙂
If my right hand was out of commission, I would be in big trouble…
Yep. And this IS my right hand. I feel like I’ll be reduced to toddlerhood.
… don’t think about that comment too much… just sayin’… HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!