When I meet a man who doesn’t take himself too seriously, I’m invariably attracted to him. A man who can laugh at himself is confident and full of joy. He also is capable of making any situation fun. He has a healthy perspective about what’s important in life, and doesn’t hesitate to adhere to those priorities. He’s in touch with his feelings and doesn’t feel awkward when he expresses them. A man like that is a delight to be around.
Many years ago I had a boyfriend who thought he was like that, but that couldn’t have been further from the truth. He made fun of himself in the cruel and bitter way he learned from his family. Instead of being fun to be around, it made people uncomfortable because everyone tended to feel sorry for him when he did it. You couldn’t even play monopoly with the guy because he invariably sucked the life out of the game with his self-directed insults, which he was convinced were funny. His low self-esteem tended to wilt everyone’s enthusiasm.
Men who can be playful are a pleasure. Men who think life is a cruel joke are a pain.
I’ll leave you with a recent photo of Sir Patrick Stewart, a man who could eat crackers in my bed any time.