The View from a Drawbridge

Tag: deceased

  • Xantolo

    One of my biggest regrets is not taking advantage of the opportunity to celebrate the Day of the Dead when I was living in Mexico. I didn’t understand what a cultural and spiritual treasure this celebration is, so I skipped it. Ever since then, I’ve been meaning to go back to have this experience, but…

  • The Dead Letter Office

    How’s this for bureaucracy? Yesterday my late boyfriend received a letter from an agency informing him that his case was closed because he was deceased. I’ll just let you absorb that for a second. When I opened the letter my first thought was, “I wonder if they’re expecting a response.” So what follows is the…

  • A Day of Rememberance

    Today is the day that they will scatter the ashes of Chuck Guerra, the man I loved most in the world. It will be done off the jetties on Hutchinson Island, Florida, because it was one of the places he loved most in the world. We would walk out there and sit on a bench…

  • Sealed Without Your Consent–Mormon Ordinances by Proxy

    The LDS Church performs a wide variety of ordinances, some of which are called saving ordinances, which they believe are required for salvation. One such ordinance is called sealing, and it seals you to spouses and other family members for all eternity. Fine and dandy and more power to them, I say. Everyone is entitled…

  • Speaking Ill of the Dead

    I was chatting with a coworker when he received a text message. “Whoa. My cousin just died.” I told him I was sorry for his loss, as you do. “Don’t be,” he said. “She was mean as a snake and hated my guts.” Once upon a time I might have been shocked by that response.…