The View from a Drawbridge

Tag: grief

  • Sneaky Grief

    I really thought I was doing fine. I had stopped the daily crying thing. I’d go longer and longer periods without thinking about him. I’d even look heavenward and do some joking quips now and then, and smile. The outside observer would assume I was coping well. I was doing all the things I needed…

  • Unexpected Wisdom

    In times of confusion or grief or despair, my first instinct is to find answers. Often there are none, but it’s a reflex action to reach out to grab something when you’re falling. Usually I turn to books. At the scattering of my boyfriend’s ashes, a friend gave me a good one. “When Things Fall…

  • Yearnings

    For the past 6 months I’ve had a lobster craving that is practically driving me out of my mind. And the sad part is that I’ll just have to live with that, because mine is not a lobster existence. On my budget, even fake crab is a luxury that I rarely get to indulge. Knowing…

  • The Other Place

    When my boyfriend, Chuck Guerra, passed away on Monday, it wasn’t the first time. He died several times on the table 25 years ago during brain surgery. So this time he knew exactly where he was going. Naturally I was devastated. I still am. I can’t imagine a time when I won’t be. But at…

  • Embracing Negative Emotions

    “Few situations –no matter how greatly they appear to demand it – can be bettered by us going berserk.” Codependent No More, Melody Beattie Most of us have been taught that there are negative and positive emotions. Anger, sadness, grief and frustration are bad. Happiness, love, joy, and bemusement are good. Because of this, we…