Recently two of my oldest friends met each other for the very first time. And it was good. But as is usually the case in these situations, it wasn’t as epic as I thought it would be.
I don’t know why I build these encounters up so much. I always expect it to be… not the clash of two titans, but more like the meeting of two titans who then bond and turn into this gigantic… what’s more gigantic than a titan?
I forget that, for them, the event is much like meeting any other person. Yeah, they’ve probably heard stories about one another from me, but they don’t have the actual history. They don’t realize just how much they have in common. They haven’t participated in the imaginary get togethers that I’ve held with the two of them in my mind for decades.
Somehow their two awesome essences don’t magically swirl together and turn into, I don’t know, some delicious awesome stew. Instead, they continue to be awesome individuals who now feel awkward and don’t quite know what to say. And that is something I’m not used to seeing in either of them, so it distresses me greatly.
Often what happens next is the two people shift their focus to the one thing they have in common: me. And that, of course, makes me squirm. I don’t really like being the center of attention. And I suddenly realize that each of them brings out a different facet of my personality, and therefore my old friends are now both seeing bits of me that they’ve never seen before. Then I start feeling the “What the hell has gotten into you?” vibe.
And of course, you can’t fall back on your inside jokes. That would make one or the other feel left out, and you’ve never experienced the feeling of making your good friend feel left out before. That’s disconcerting for everyone involved.
Even worse is when your two friends meet and they don’t like each other. Not at all. Then you get to hear, later on, “What on earth do you see in that person?” And you’re left feeling like you need to defend your friendship choices.
The ultimate nightmare, of course, would be that they like each other so much that you are the one who begins to feel left out. That has yet to happen to me, but I have heard stories. No thank you.
When two well-established parts of your life collide, the results can be unpredictable. I generally start off excited about the prospect, but inevitably walk away feeling slightly saddened. Maybe it’s better to keep all your plates spinning in different regions of your world. Then they’re less likely to crash into one another and cover you in jagged shards of disappointment.
I’ve got to say, I know a lot of amazing people. Many of them I have met through this blog, and I’m very grateful for that. I have some inspiring, talented, enthusiastic, wise and wonderful friends. It is often a source of amazement to me that all of these brilliant people don’t already know each other. I guess I’ve always sort of assumed that greatness would be drawn toward itself like a vast magnetic field.
If the various streams that feed my own personal font of human knowledge ever converge, it would turn into a sea of awesomeness! What magic would spring forth upon the world? What new things would be created? The untapped potential here boggles the mind. Yeah, yeah, I know this is called networking, and it didn’t originate with me. So sue me.
So recently I started a very unscientific experiment. I picked two of my amazing friends and sent them an e-mail which basically said, “Hi guys. You are two of my favorite people, and here’s why.” Then I went on to describe each one’s talents, and urged them to connect via e-mail or Facebook or Linkedin… whatever it takes, because with their combined energy and enthusiasm, only the most incredible things could result.
I have absolutely no idea if anything will come of this rather awkward and unsolicited introduction. I plan to try it with several pairs in the coming weeks. If even one connection actually bears fruit, it will have been worth it.
You should give it a try! Imagine how the world would change if we each connected just two amazing people with each other. It’s fun being a catalyst!