I know so many people who are afraid to ask for anything. They don’t want to appear needy. They don’t want to rock the boat. They don’t want to inconvenience anyone. They don’t feel worthy. They’re afraid of what might happen.
Here’s what might happen: the person you ask might say no. But that person might just as easily say yes. Until you ask, you’ll never know. And if you don’t ask, I guarantee that you’ll never get to that yes. Ever.
I tend to speak up, at least when it occurs to me. And I admit that the no’s come at me like boulders in a mudslide, but every once in a while there’s a wonderful, exciting, delightful yes. And that yes makes it all worth it.
I genuinely believe that there are no self-made Men. There are simply those who have learned how to ask for help. They will always get much farther ahead than those who never do.
It’s so easy to take shortcuts in life. Frozen vegetables. Fast food. The elevator instead of the stairs. The less than optimal and yet oh-so-convenient partner.
While these things may save time and effort, in the long run, or in the grander scheme of things, they aren’t the best choices. My inner voice tries to tell me this all the time. I’ve just gotten too used to ignoring that voice over the years. But it’s still there.
I know that when my husband and I prepare a delicious meal from scratch, with a variety of fresh vegetables, I can hear my inner voice saying, “Yes!” When I exert myself to the point that I know I’ll sleep well that night, it says, “Yes, yes! Oh, yes!” When I stand up for myself and don’t accept rude treatment, “YES!!!!”
I need to get back into the habit of listening to the yes. Even better, I need to do things in anticipation thereof. I need to encourage the yes. Live the yes. Be the yes I want to see in the world.