Location, Location, Location

The first time I fell in love I was 19 and in Europe for the first time. Everything was exotic and new and delicious and exciting. We held hands and made out and explored that world and each other, and everything was magical. So magical, in fact, that the rest of my life has paled…

The first time I fell in love I was 19 and in Europe for the first time. Everything was exotic and new and delicious and exciting. We held hands and made out and explored that world and each other, and everything was magical. So magical, in fact, that the rest of my life has paled by comparison. How can you possibly compete with being in love in Paris, Berlin, and Amsterdam?

The second time I was in love was in the virtual world called Second Life. In that amazing place the moon is always full, your house is always waterfront, everyone dances well and dresses well and is always young and gorgeous, and you can be in Morocco one minute and in the hanging gardens of Babylon the next. But you can ask anyone who has spent any time in Second Life and they will assure you that the feelings are real. The connections are real.

This time around I’m in love in Jacksonville, Florida, a city I’ve been trying, unsuccessfully, to get away from for the past 30 years. It’s not an exotic love. It’s not a gorgeous love. It’s a more realistic one, and perhaps that’s why the relationship is more rocky, more roller coaster-y, more uncertain, but priceless nonetheless.

What would love be like while dodging bullets in Compton, or on the crowded streets of Bangladesh, or starving in a slum in Rio de Janeiro? How much of love is strictly a function of location? I wonder.

Shanties gutted in the city

(Image credit: shesoverseas.com)

21 responses to “Location, Location, Location”

  1. Ah Love! Sometimes it is fireworks and butterflies, sometimes we are burned and bruised, but tempered like good steel by the experience. Sometimes it sneaks up and taps us on the shoulder, letting us know that it was there for awhile, but we wern’t ready. Sometimes it hits us like a two by four, taking our breath and senses away. The best, grows tenderly and is nurtured and takes work and care… like a garden. What ever kind enters your life you are enriched by it’s presence. I say the perfect location is wherever you are when you realize you are loved as much as you love, and the world is a better place.

    1. I should have let you write this blog entry, Carole. You clearly speak from the heart. 🙂

  2. Just happy for you.

  3. I love the Bay Area, and miss it every day.

    1. Oh, I thought you were still there.

      1. No… San Diego… too hot and full of republicans…

      2. Ugh. Don’t know which is worse.

      3. Tell me about it… they both give me a rash in my naughty bits… sigh… HA!!!!!

      4. And then after giving you the rash, they’ll take your insurance away so you won’t be able to do anything about it.

      5. And they will tell me that either it is a hoax or it is the lord punishing me for something.

      6. Yeah, because you deserve it for not thinking the way they do. And clearly you’re stupid because you’re intelligent.

      7. And I want to take away their freedom… to own bunkers full of guns to fight the government, and to destroy the environment for greed, and to tell other people they suck, and other religions they are wrong, and so on.

      8. Okay, So I won’t be moving to San Diego.

      9. It isn’t all bad.

  4. Actually, they want the government to legalized everything, then stay out of their lives. LOL

    1. And they reserve the right to mow them down with a semi-automatic weapon if they don’t.

  5. Yeah, all the dangerous animals are outside the zoo. But you can get the best food in San Diego, from every culture in the world.

    1. I’ve only spent less than 24 hours there, to visit the zoo and catch a plane at the end of my cross country camping trip. It does seem like a place I’d like to explore more.

  6. My Daughter and Grandson live there. It is beautiful and so much to do there, but wouldn’t want to live there.

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