The Best Advice You’ll Ever Get

A friend of mine posted a meme on her Facebook wall that said: “Teach your teenagers how to handle money NOW or they’ll be living in your basement when they’re 30.” Truer words were never spoken. I was lucky to have a mother who knew the importance of teaching such lessons. As a matter of…

A friend of mine posted a meme on her Facebook wall that said:

“Teach your teenagers how to handle money NOW or they’ll be living in your basement when they’re 30.”

Truer words were never spoken. I was lucky to have a mother who knew the importance of teaching such lessons. As a matter of fact, at the age of 10 she had me start a business, growing houseplants and selling them at the local flea market, and that taught me much.

But the best advice she ever gave me was when I was a freshman in college. She understood it was important for me to get a credit card so I could build up a credit history, but, she said, “Never carry a credit card balance. Ever.” And she meant never, ever, EVER. To get me into the habit of thinking that way, she had me put cash in an envelope whenever I charged something, so I’d be sure I’d have it to pay off the credit card bill COMPLETELY at the end of the month. I did that for years.

Eventually I was so used to thinking of a credit card as a pay-as-you-go proposition that I no longer had to put cash in the envelope. I just got into the habit of knowing that if I couldn’t afford to buy something outright in any given month, then I couldn’t afford to have it.

If I needed to make a major purchase, I’d save up the money beforehand, and only THEN charge it. Delayed gratification isn’t as bad as you’d think, when you realize you don’t have to cope with the stress of credit card debt.

So here I am at age 48, with the best credit score you can possibly have, and all because I have always paid my credit card bills off in full whenever they arrive, even if it hurts. I’m not going to lie; I’m struggling financially. Times are extremely hard. But I could have easily made it a lot worse on myself by having to pay massive amounts of interest. At least I can say that any financial woes I experience are not due to a lifetime of poor judgment.

If my mother were alive today she could rest assured that her basement would never have to be converted into an apartment for me, and I take great pride in that fact.

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13 responses to “The Best Advice You’ll Ever Get”

  1. I gave this advice to my children as well, and for the most part, except for cars/trucks, they have done okay. Myself on the other hand, not. I raised three small children alone and when the small support check didn’t come we would do without. I had no credit and it took years to get the first credit card in my name although I had always worked. By the time they were pre-teens, they needed so much more than I could provide, and that was when I got my first card. I messed up a few times and was overcome, but managed to work it out. Survival. I had control and was getting things paid off one by one… When they revamped the Credit Card industry a few years ago, before the laws went into effect, the CC Card companies raised their interest rates (mine from 12 to 24.5%) even though I had always paid More than the minimum and Never late. They also raised the minimum from $25. to 50 or 75, depending on the balance. Now millions of us that could manage found ourselves strangling, I managed to pay off much, but the old habits of giving to others is my weakness. Now I have to hope I live long enough to be debt free. My Husband does not know, and I hope I can continue to work my way free of debt. I wish I had had someone around to give me that advice 40 years ago. BTW that is how my Husband manages our lives, or I would not be here now.

    1. Clearly you married well. 🙂 Keep plugging away at it. I hate that you have this kind of stress.

  2. We should also teach kids common sense… and manners… and how to cook and sew…

      1. And respecting their elders.

      2. Respect in general seems to be a dying art.

      3. Yeah it does…

  3. Well pouringmyartout, I can do all those just great and Mrs.Manners would be so proud of me. I can juggle like nobody’s business, rob Peter to pay Paul with the best, but that tree just won’t grow any money.

    1. And if it ever does, Carole, keep that to yourself or you’ll have people sneaking in and plucking off branches all the time.

  4. HaHa, Welcome Home!

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