The View from a Drawbridge

The random musings of a bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.

When I was little, if you asked me to choose a favorite color I would have said purple without hesitation. Purple, purple, purple. Everything around me had to be purple if possible. I didn’t care if it was a pastel or a dark rich shade, as long as it was purple.

Then, sometime around age 10, I began to get a more refined sense of color, and realized I didn’t really like just any purple. No. Lavender was my color, and that has been the case until very recently. A female who likes lavender. How cliché.

But in the past year I have been going through some changes that have caused me to get to know myself on a much deeper level, and all of a sudden a pale washed out lavender isn’t for me. No. I am a lilac woman. I think I have been all along. I just didn’t have the courage to own it.

But I suspect my life is about to be flipped upside down, and frankly, I’d welcome that. Things haven’t been ideal of late. So I started to cast about for ways to jump start some changes.

I began thinking about color. What if your color choice is based on your personality? But which comes first? Does your personality dictate your color choice, or does color influence who you are? I do notice that certain colors bring out certain feelings in me.

Recently I got a new laptop and had a choice of colors. I could have chosen purple, but I chose red. For some reason I really had to have red. And that surprised me because I’ve never liked red. I don’t wear red, and it’s not a big part of my life. Red actually makes me uncomfortable. It’s way too “out there” for quiet little me.

And I’ve been noticing yellow a lot recently. Yellow makes me smile. I think I need more yellow in my life. Again, this is a color I’ve always avoided. Not only because I look jaundiced when I wear it, but also because it’s a bit too perky, a bit too upbeat. Ironically I just realized it’s exactly opposite purple on the color wheel, too. Interesting.

In the process of writing this entry, I came across this website: and it talks about the various personality traits that are associated with certain colors. Sure enough, the description for purple fits me to a T. It’s actually kind of eerie. All but two comments about purple people, for better or for worse, match me perfectly.

The website also mentions some other interesting theories. It says:

“If you have changed your personality color, or favorite color, try to identify the circumstances surrounding your life at that time as your new favorite will reflect qualities you need to attract into your life to help you deal with those circumstances.”

“The colors you dislike can tell you a lot about yourself as well, often reflecting your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. Your most disliked color will relate to areas in your life that need to be given attention or past hurts that need to be healed. It is a good idea to try to incorporate a small amount of your disliked colors into your life by using them in clothing or underwear or in your home, to help balance your energies. Rejecting whole colors can create imbalances in your life.”

So next I looked at their descriptions of yellow and red, to find out what I need from them.

From yellow I need enthusiasm for life, confidence and optimism. It also brings clear thinking and quick decision making. Being drawn to yellow means I have a deep need for logical order. Amen to that. My dislike of yellow up to this point means that I’ve been unable to cope with change, and am not impulsive or spontaneous. Again, right on target.

Red is the color of extroversion and optimism. I could use both qualities. If I’m drawn to red right now it means I have a need for fulfillment and satisfaction and I want to experience life through the five senses. Yes! Yes! Yes! My aversion to it up to now means that I’ve been under stress and couldn’t cope with the excitement and high energy that red generates. It also means I find anger a difficult emotion to handle. God, yes.

It also says that if you dislike red, “You may want more excitement, energy and passion in your life but are afraid, for some reason, or lack the self-confidence, to get involved and open yourself to the possibilities red can bring to you.” And “You may have suffered rejection or defeat at an early age and don’t believe you can ever win.” Well, holy crap.

Okay, that’s it. I’m bringing more red and yellow into my life. Yes, I’m sure I’ll always be inherently lilac, but what would it hurt if I added a little contrast to my world?

Pillow Fight at Nathan Philips Square in Toronto. May 12, 2007.

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23 thoughts on “Changing My Favorite Color

  1. um… you might be overthinking this just a bit.

    1. Actually, I’m noticing changes already.

      1. Sometimes a color is just a color…

      2. Now, don’t make me see red. 🙂

      3. Don’t make me blue…

      4. I think you’re green with envy, actually. :p

      5. I think you’ve been drinking too much red, white and burgundy wine…

      6. Nah. Strictly orange juice.

      7. Don’t it make your brown eye blue?

      8. It must, ’cause I’m looking in the mirror, and they are blue.

      9. Not black and blue?

      10. If they were, that would be fodder for an entirely different blog entry.

      11. Yeah… that was a stupid joke I made.

  2. Carole says:

    When I was young, I hated all versions and visions of purple. Now I say “Color My World”, varity is the spice of life and colors enhance our vision. It’s a Technicolored world.

    1. Indeed it is. And I love the idea of coloring my world. 🙂

    2. I’ve already bought yellow curtains, a red tank top, and a red and yellow scented candle. 🙂

  3. Christine says:

    I’ve always been yellow, with few drops of orange and light-green. But recently i realized that now I often choose blue or cyan color instead… i’m not sure when exactly this shift happened, probably after I became mom. I will try to figure out! Thanks for sharing this information! 😉

    1. Thanks Christine! Motherhood is definitely grounds for a shift!

  4. Jessica Carver says:

    I enjoyed this. Good luck with the yellow and red. Hopefully your link will guide me to understand my sudden urge for orange.

    1. Years later, red has definitely made a foothold in my life. Yellow is not coming as naturally, but I’m still working on it. Good luck with orange!

  5. Sunnie says:

    I’ve recently noticed that my favorite color shifted from red to blue. So I was looking for something like this. I couldn’t get my new phone in a red color so I ended up with blue. It took some adjusting but after awhile I was seeing more blue in things I picked. I also felt my personality/mood change a bit in a way I was not familiar with. It became more reserved and grounded?? Less spontaneous as well. So maybe I’ll try to incorporate more of a better balance of colors. More reds?

    1. That sounds like a great idea! As I have “warmed up” to reds, I feel myself becoming more outgoing and spontaneous. I would still like to incorporate more yellow, but it still doesn’t come naturally to me. Keep up the good work with your self-exploration!

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