The View from a Drawbridge

The random musings of a bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.

One of the problems about writing a daily blog is that you’re always left with a vague sense that you’ve written all of this before. I could swear I wrote this blog entry within the past couple weeks, but I’ve searched and can’t find anything. So, if you’re a regular reader and are feeling a sense of déjà vu, my apologies. On the other hand, maybe I just thought about writing it and then never got around to it.

I had an epiphany the other day. Loneliness really makes no sense at all. It’s the mistaken assumption that someone out there, whom you’ve yet to even meet, holds the key to your happiness. How absurd.

First of all, from a mathematical standpoint that would also mean that I hold the key to some stranger’s happiness, and I’m keyless and clueless. So that formula is easily disproven. (And I don’t even like math.)

Also, loneliness means you’re giving all your power away. I don’t like that concept at all. I’m not going to live in some emotional limbo, on the off chance that some random person is going to come along and care enough and be capable enough to fill my every emotional need.

Ever since I had this epiphany about two weeks ago, I haven’t felt lonely at all. It’s like a weight has lifted off my shoulders. I sort of feel as though I’m back in the driver’s seat of my life. What a liberating feeling.

Not that I plan to go live in a cave in the wilderness, mind you. I still want friends. I still want companionship. I still have itches that I very much would like to have scratched. But suddenly the urgency is no longer there. The sadness is gone. I appreciate my life for what it is, and look forward to what it can be, in whatever form that may take.

I hope this feeling lasts.

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13 thoughts on “The Stupidity of Loneliness

  1. BillGFL says:

    Loneliness comes, I believe, from a sense of not feeling “connected”. We have to decide what it is we want/need to be ultimately connected to. Tying that need entirely to another person is too often disappointing. We need to be connected to something else.

    1. I agree wholeheartedly. Thanks Bill!

  2. Reblogged this on The Professional Introvert and commented:
    check this out

  3. now tell us about the loneliness of stupidity… HA!

    1. Actually, if you’re stupid, would you even KNOW you were lonely?

      1. wow… I actually need to think about that

      2. My head hurts thinking about it.

      3. then imagine how I feel

    2. Brian says:

      That was perfect, especially the ‘ha’ part.

      1. Ha is Art’s favorite word, Brian. 🙂

      2. that is always the best part

  4. Brian says:

    I enjoyed reading that – keep exercising that thinking muscle – you’re doing well.

    1. So far it seems to be sticking, but I’m sure I’ll have my bad moments, like during major holidays. Bleh. But so far, so good. Thanks.

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