The View from a Drawbridge

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Imaginary Dates

It seems that I enjoy torturing myself sometimes. And I have a rich imagination, so I’m good at it. Since I haven’t had a date since my late boyfriend passed away, I sometimes have imaginary dates in my head. For example, the EMP Museum here in Seattle is currently hosting a Campout Cinema Series where…

It seems that I enjoy torturing myself sometimes. And I have a rich imagination, so I’m good at it. Since I haven’t had a date since my late boyfriend passed away, I sometimes have imaginary dates in my head.

For example, the EMP Museum here in Seattle is currently hosting a Campout Cinema Series where you bring your sleeping bag and pillow, and stretch out on the floor and watch a classic horror movie. That sounds like so much fun. I could imagine snuggling up with someone and eating popcorn and pretending to be scared.

I know what you’ll say. You should go anyway. But watching all the couples getting all romantical while seeing a movie I normally wouldn’t watch anyway does not sound like a good time to me. Sorry. It just doesn’t. A stiff upper lip only carries you so far in this life.

I do this all the time. I imagine how much more fun a restaurant, museum, walk in the park, festival, etc. would be if I were lucky enough to go with someone else rather than be standing there alone. Why on earth do I do this to myself?

A friend of mine says that I really need to learn to enjoy being alone. I need to embrace it. Yeah. Maybe.

Maybe.

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15 responses to “Imaginary Dates”

  1. Wedgwood in Seattle History Avatar
    Wedgwood in Seattle History

    What about Seattle Meet-Up groups? There are lots of different activities, such as walking, museums, sports, writing groups. http://seattle.meetup.com/cities/us/wa/seattle/

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      I’m in a few of those. That’s how I got into storytelling. But with my weird schedule (weekends are Mondays and Tuesdays), the vast majority of there activities are when I have to work. :/

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      1. Wedgwood in Seattle History Avatar
        Wedgwood in Seattle History

        I know there’s got to be something for you out there, even if it is just a walk-group. Or a book group at the library? Trivia Night at the local pub????

      2. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
        The View from a Drawbridge

        My schedule is a huge barrier. But I do what I can.

  2. pouringmyartout Avatar
    pouringmyartout

    they have an electro-magnetic pulse museum??????

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      If anyone has one, Seattle does. But in this case it stands for Experience Music Project.

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      1. pouringmyartout Avatar
        pouringmyartout

        phew

  3. lyn sutton Avatar
    lyn sutton

    Stop torturing yourself…In those moments when you feel most alone, don’t be… go out and volunteer at something that touches your heart. Fill the void by serving those in need and you will create a radiant positive energy that may even attract someone worth the wait. If nothing else, alone is easier when you feel good about yourself plus you’ll have more to blog about.

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      Good points, all. And I have signed up for an orientation class to volunteer at a local animal shelter, but that isn’t ’til November.

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  4. lyn sutton Avatar
    lyn sutton

    I was thinking animal shelter but didn’t specify it. I didn’t want to put my ideas in your head. Goodness knows it’s crammed full of your own already. Hang on, November’s only 3 weeks away. (And that’s my limit of empathy for the day…back to creating chaos.)

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      Thanks Lyn. 🙂

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  5. cupitonians Avatar
    cupitonians

    No. Being surrounded by lovey-dovey couples would be torture, whether you are single or not.

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      lol. Good point.

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  6. Kramer Avatar
    Kramer

    I highly recommend enjoying being alone. Remember, nothing ever lasts forever. Your circumstances will change soon enough. In the meantime, live your life now!

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      Excellent idea… says everything except my libido.

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