The View from a Drawbridge

The random musings of an autistic bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.

Where Are You?

Okay, let’s see if this “six degrees of separation” thing actually works. I could use your help. The bottom line is I’m lonely and I’m discouraged. I moved to Seattle a year and a half ago, not knowing a soul. But I’m not really sure that I fully understood what a huge leap of faith…

Okay, let’s see if this “six degrees of separation” thing actually works. I could use your help. The bottom line is I’m lonely and I’m discouraged.

I moved to Seattle a year and a half ago, not knowing a soul. But I’m not really sure that I fully understood what a huge leap of faith that would be. Had I thought it through, I may not have had the courage to take that step.

I think I’m a good person. I’m funny and interesting and compassionate and passionate and entertaining and intelligent and I have integrity. I’m also someone who thrives in a relationship, but out here I can’t even get a date.

Not for lack of trying, believe me. I’ve recently stepped off the toxic treadmill of rejection that is internet dating. I think I met every nut job and player in the Seattle metropolitan area. I have to admit that my work schedule does not do me any favors. My “weekends” are Mondays and Tuesdays. That makes it hard to meet people. But I think I’m worth the extra effort.

I think part of the reason I get passed over is that I’m not a girly girl, I’m not a size 3, and I couldn’t give two sh**s about the NFL. But come on, there has to be someone out there who doesn’t care about those things.

I just want a guy who would like to travel, locally and internationally. Someone smart who would be fun to talk to. Someone curious about the world. Someone who accepts me as I am. Is that too much to ask? It would also be nice if the man in question were between the ages of 48 and 60, and lived within 25 miles of Seattle.

I have my deal breakers, too. I will not date a smoker. If your children are under 18 I’ll run screaming in the opposite direction. And I would have absolutely nothing in common with a conservative.

Where are you???? Because believe me, I’m right here.

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24 responses to “Where Are You?”

  1. Mountainstroh (Tony) Avatar
    Mountainstroh (Tony)

    I am surprised. I would think just the chance to be at the draw bridge when it opens would have guys lining up and you could choose…. Maybe the poet they choose to “live” at the bridge could be a,possibility?

    And agreed smoker is gross and don’t blame you at all for the kids under 18 deal! I still have one ….

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      You also have a wife, and that’s a bit of a deal breaker, too. 🙂 You’d be surprised, I’ve offered people tours of the drawbridge and they never get around to it. Me, I’d be camped on the sidewalk!

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      1. Mountainstroh (Tony) Avatar
        Mountainstroh (Tony)

        No kidding! I was below your bridge Thursday when I played hookie from work. Maybe single guys in Seattle are strange!

      2. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
        The View from a Drawbridge

        I’m beginning to wonder. 🙂

  2. lyn sutton Avatar
    lyn sutton

    Many men who may agree with a “No Children” policy still expect the women in their lives to be nurturing…maybe a few blogs highlighting your nurturing aspects… 🙂

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      My dogs say I’m quite nurturing. 🙂

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  3. lyn sutton Avatar
    lyn sutton

    Yeah… but most men take offense when you treat them like dogs and some people treat their dogs better than humans. Me…I try to nurture all sentient life forms equally, but not all humans qualify as sentient. 🙂

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      Good points, all.

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  4. Sam Avatar
    Sam

    Dear Barb: I’ve known you for 30 years and know you to be a very sweet, kind, and caring person. I believe there is a good man out there for you. I find that relationships that last seem to be the ones that seemed to happen by “accident” (or fate). The couples I’m talking about never charted out a definite course, joined a dating service, or felt they’d never find someone. Fate seemed to bring them together when they least expected it ….and when the time was right. My parents, grandparents, great-parents all met this way. Keep living your life in the wonderfully good and decent way you always have and FATE will step in and find you a good man to share your life with. your friend, Sam

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      I hope you’re right, Sam, but fate also has me all alone in a drawbridge tower much of the time…

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  5. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    Your openness, honesty and clear sense of self is refreshing! I hope there is a man courageous enough to respond! BTW you are amazing. Friend, Julie

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      Awwww… thanks Julie!

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  6. pouringmyartout Avatar
    pouringmyartout

    wait… you want someone interesting to talk to… you might have to become a lesbian… HA!

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    1. lyn sutton Avatar
      lyn sutton

      Bi-sexual would maximize her options…after all, there are a few interesting men left out there… You know any Art? 🙂

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      1. pouringmyartout Avatar
        pouringmyartout

        I do… I guess… but I just hook up bloggers… this isn’t actually a dating website… HA!

      2. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
        The View from a Drawbridge

        If I’m going to find someone, I’ve decided I have to get unconventional.

      3. pouringmyartout Avatar
        pouringmyartout

        well…. uh… in California, that covers a lot of ground…

      4. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
        The View from a Drawbridge

        On oh so many levels.

      5. pouringmyartout Avatar
        pouringmyartout

        yup

      6. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
        The View from a Drawbridge

        All the interesting ones seem to be married or gay.

    2. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      Any port in a storm at this point. 🙂

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      1. pouringmyartout Avatar
        pouringmyartout

        oh yeah

  7. lyn sutton Avatar
    lyn sutton

    So are you saying you don’t know any interesting single male bloggers worthy of our Barb? She is expanding beyond dating websites at this point…but maybe a pouringmyartout based dating site would generate more success for her 🙂

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    1. The View from a Drawbridge Avatar
      The View from a Drawbridge

      At this point even one coffee shop date would seem like manna from heaven.

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