The View from a Drawbridge

The random musings of a bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.

If you were told that someone had a talent that only a handful of people on the entire planet had, wouldn’t you be impressed? Wouldn’t you be even more impressed if you knew that person was also a free speech advocate, had been in a few films, organizes for street performers, is a storyteller and has a radio show?

Meet Abby the Spoon Lady. This woman is talented beyond measure. She’s also intelligent, well-traveled, and dedicated. That should be all anyone needs to know about her.

But that’s not how the world works. If you check out her Youtube channel or Facebook page, both of which show you dozens of amazing performances, you’ll be enchanted. Unless you start reading the comments. Then, if you’re like me, you’ll be infuriated. While many people recognize her talent, trolls abound. They criticize her looks. They criticize her clothes. They criticize her lack of teeth.

It seems to me that if Abby were a man, she wouldn’t get this type of feedback. But being a woman in the music world, you’re supposed to be glamorous and perfect in every way, or you can’t be taken seriously. I don’t find Willie Nelson particularly attractive, but you don’t hear people discussing that to the point where his talent gets forgotten, do you?

Give Abby a break. I think she’s beautiful. I think her talent is also beautiful. I think the world is a much more beautiful place because she’s in it. I hope I get to see her perform live someday. And if I do, I hope the trolls stay home.


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8 thoughts on “Credit Where Credit Is Due

  1. Kevin says:

    One exception to the rule: Shane McGowan’s teeth (or lack thereof, as time went on—he lost the last one in 2008) were regularly talked about until he got new ones (implants, presumably) in 2015.

    1. I am so out of the loop. Thanks, Kevin.

      1. Kevin says:

        Of course, he had *really* hideous teeth—he was practically the poster child for stereotypes about poor British dental care.

      2. A British friend of mine once said that he could spot me for an American instantly, because when I smile I show my teeth. 🙂

  2. Suzitoothless says:

    This wonderful person inspired me to finally do something with my teeth. Now I m 24 and I’m toothless just like Abby. I completely gave up my prosthetic teeth and implants. I’m confident, I like to smile, talk to people. Abby made me not ashamed of toothlessness.

    1. That’s wonderful! I’m sure you’re beautiful. Just be aware that without the prosthetics, your jawbone will start to resorb. That means it will become thinner and thinner until eventually you won’t even have the option of prosthetics or implants. There won’t be enough bone left. And you’re awfully young to paint yourself into that corner. Beautiful, confident, wonderful, but I hope you will consider leaving your options open. And while I have nothing but admiration for Abby, you can already tell that her jaw is getting dangerously thin, just by looking at the photographs. But please don’t ever lose that confidence!

      1. Suzitoothless says:

        I know everything. The dentist also warned me about the loss of bone. I have already made the decision. I’m slowly learning to eat and talk. I’m getting used to the new look and my new smile is a bit similar to Abby’s hihi it look a bit funny but I liked my toothless myself. Greetings from Slovakia

      2. West wishes to you, and keep smiling! 🙂

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