If the golden rule is, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” then the platinum rule ought to be, “Be kind to yourself.” Because let’s face it: there’s no guarantee that anyone else is going to play by the golden rule. The only real power you have is within you. Why do we seem to ration out that power as if we were in the midst of some sort of happiness famine? It makes no sense.
But who am I to talk? I tend to treat others much better than I do myself. When I splurge (using money I earned myself, it should be noted) I’m hard-pressed not to feel guilty about it. “You shouldn’t be spending your money and/or time and/or energy in this way,” I’ll say to myself.
This year, I intend to make more of an effort to say, “Shaddup, self! I deserve this!”
I deserve naps. I deserve nice meals. I deserve to relax. I deserve to explore the world. I deserve to read good books while cuddling with my good dog. I deserve adventures. I deserve new experiences. I deserve to spend time with people I enjoy. I deserve time to myself. I deserve celebrations, and don’t need to come up with excuses for them. I deserve long hot baths.
Self-decency doesn’t necessarily have to cost a fortune. But it does take effort. This will probably never come naturally to me. That’s a shame. But I genuinely believe I’ll be presenting a better me to the world if I take the time to appreciate myself.
Be kind to yourself, dear reader. You deserve it, too.