The View from a Drawbridge

The random musings of a bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.

I had been sporting the same hairdo since high school. That’s rather pathetic, since I’m now in my 50’s. It was time for a change. But such a drastic transformation should not be entered into lightly. It’s really important to do your homework before choosing a hairstyle.

First of all, you need to know the shape of your face. Not all haircuts are created equal. Some will flatter a round face but will look horrible on a square one, for example. This article will help you determine your face shape whether it’s round, square, long, oval, or heart shaped.

I have a square face. When I look at myself in the mirror on a good day, all I see is a jaw. On a bad day, all I see is jowls. But I have good company. Gwyneth Paltrow, Sandra Bullock, Demi More, Angelina Jolie, and Isabella Rossellini, to name just a few. Supposedly we’ll age well and be very photogenic. Go figure.

But it also means I have to be careful. I have to do things to round out my corners. For example, I look horrible in those trendy narrowly rectangular glasses that I love so much. I have to go for something more curved. And hairstyles can be a challenge, too. No blunt cut bangs or blocky styles that end at the jawline. I need more rounded cuts. More asymmetry. Layers. Waves.

Once you’ve determined your face shape, head on over to to see examples of styles that will flatter you. I was thrilled to see that they had 50 ideas for square faces! The possibilities seemed endless.

While I was able to narrow down the possibilities, I still wanted to consult that font of all human knowledge, my Facebook friends. I linked them to the 50 suggestions, and I got an amazing amount of feedback about what I should do. As is normal in life, some advice I took, some I did not. But after all that, I settled upon the one style that I felt would work best for me.

This was going to be a radical change. I didn’t want to rely on some 12 dollar hairdresser-in-a-box franchise place. I wanted an expert. (Look at this as an investment in you. It’s worth it.)

Fortunately, I have a fantastic hairstylist in Douglas, at A Better Day Salon in Lake Forest Park, Washington. I found him by looking for Aveda salons near me. I went to an Aveda salon for years in Florida, and was always satisfied with the results. They have a reputation to uphold, so they tend to go for the best.

Another great way to find a hairstylist is to approach women whose hair you admire and ask them for their advice on where to go. Also, look for feedback on line. Getting the right professional for you is important.


So here’s the haircut I wound up with. I’m still getting used to it, after years of long, feathered hair. But I am getting lots of compliments, and I feel like I’m a new woman. It’s fun! And, hey, if I change my mind, it’ll grow out and I can start again.

Good luck, everyone, in finding the look that’s right for you!


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2 thoughts on “Finding the Right Hairstyle for You

  1. Angiportus Librarysaver says:

    Interesting. I haven’t looked into one of these style guides [hair, clothes, what have you] for a long time, but it seems they haven’t yet shed their prescriptiveness. Telling us what look we should strive for instead of just explaining the visual tricks/illusions and letting us decide for ourselves what we want to emphasize or offset/distract from.
    And the whole business of talking about “flaws” or “problems”. Why the hell should a strong jawline need to be “corrected”?? It isn’t wrong, for crying out loud. This sort of thing just makes people more dissatisfied with their bodies, and for some of us that is the last thing we need. Just like all those books about clothes and shapes, they aim to achieve the illusion of having standardized everyone while giving lip service to individuality. Variety exists only for people to seek the illusion of its opposite. The person who wants to emphasize any quality that was emphatic to start with, or minimize what was on the minimal side already, doesn’t exist for them.
    Take what you can use from this site and its ilk, everyone, but add a sizeable grain of salt, and think for yourself about what you really want to look like and why, and then go for the how.
    Anyway, Barb, you look fine.

    1. Thanks Angi. I get what you’re saying, but I do feel a lot better than when I’ve chosen hairstyles without doing my homework in the past. And I never have liked my strong jaw. Not because anyone told me I shouldn’t. Simply because it’s such a prominent feature. So learning tricks to tone it down were most welcome. But to each his or her own, right?

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