The View from a Drawbridge

The random musings of a bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.

The first time I saw Violet, in the Pixar movie The Incredibles, I instantly related to her. I was that girl when I was in school. I was the one with the low self-esteem, who just wanted to disappear. The only way I could do that, really, was to hide behind my hair.

I’m beginning to see that girl again when I look in the mirror. Not because my self-esteem is back to rock bottom, but because thanks to COVID-19, all the hair salons are closed. I’m beginning to look as though I’ve been raised by wolves. I’m seriously contemplating shaving my head.

I’ve known a lot of people who hide behind their hair. I have one friend with a foot-long beard, a la ZZ Top, who swears it’s just a fashion statement. But he is very reclusive and tends to keep people at arm’s length. I think that beard is one of the many walls he shelters himself behind, and it makes me very sad. He’s an amazing man, and I think he’d see a lot of positive results if he removed that barrier.

Yes, everyone should be allowed to express themselves any way that they want. I’m not hair shaming here. And I certainly don’t mean to trod upon your cultural beliefs. I’m just speaking from personal experience. Your situation may not be the same, and if it isn’t, more power to you. But if you think your hair might be a wall, consider tearing it down, or pulling it back or putting it up at the very least.

Come out, come out. I know you’re in there somewhere.

Violet Parr

Violet Parr, The Incredibles

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8 thoughts on “Hiding behind Your Hair

  1. Carole says:

    LOL… Why is it in times of stress or emotional upheaval do women attack, redesign, color, abuse their hair. I always cut my own hair, but whenever there is some kind of crises, The scissors have a mind of their own, and wack, the bangs are too short, waaaay too short. My Daughter is beyond help. A Nurse at an Assisted Living facility, SHE has befuddled even me during the Covid19 crises. Every week the residents are looking forward to her new hair-do. From her natural waist-length red hair to just under the ears, this month we have seen Blond (liked,) Burgandy (no-go), Maroon (EEK) Dark Auburn with a bright-red streamer on each side (bearable) and now Ariel the Mermaid Red (Love it). We can only pray this does not go on much longer. The spirit of Brittany Spears and a bald head may be in her future.

    Where is Edward Scissorhands when we need him?

    1. He would certainly be welcome at my house these days!
      And I’ve always wanted a turquoise streak. I was going to have my hairdresser do that… and then here we find ouselves. Sigh.

  2. Lyn says:

    Hats, scarves, barrettes, hair clips and ties. Also, a bold covid mask will distract the eyes from your unruly mane. Top that with reflective wrap around sunglasses and…what hair? Problem solved. There’s much we can’t control in our lives right now, don’t let hair be one of them. Tame those tangles and beat that wild beast into submission. We’re at war right now and every victory, no matter how small (or vain), matters. If all else fails, throw out your mirrors! 🙂

    1. Brilliant advice! Thanks, Lyn!

  3. Lyn says:

    I want it long, straight, curly, fuzzy
    Snaggy, shaggy, ratty, matty
    Oily, greasy, fleecy
    Shining, gleaming, streaming
    Flaxen, waxen
    Knotted, polka-dotted
    Twisted, beaded, braided
    Powdered, flowered, and confettied
    Bangled, tangled, spangled, and spaghettied!

    Embrace your inner Hippie and let it all fly in the breeze…maybe keep your mask on though. 🙂

    1. Well, it certainly is a lot of the above! Thanks for the song nostalgia. And yeah, mask is priority one. Stay safe, Lyn!

      1. Lyn says:

        Thought if you’re bored enough you guys can use the soundtrack to re-enact the musical and post it to entertain the rest of us. Love to see how you handle the iconic nude scene. 🙂 I think this quarantine is making me sassier.

      2. lol. I think I’ll leave that one up to you. 🙂

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