The View from a Drawbridge

The random musings of a bridgetender with entirely too much time on her hands.

So, dear readers, I’ve been overwhelmed lately. I have an ever-increasing list of things that I need to do, and I just keep carrying it over from one weekend to the next, and by the time the weekend rolls around, I’m so exhausted that tackling the list is too daunting.

Bridgetending is the best job in the world in that you get a lot of down time, and you can use that down time to do other things, such as paying bills or cleaning out the digital photos on your computer or scheduling appointments or planning vacations. But I don’t do those things because I spend at least half my shift writing this daily blog.

Don’t get me wrong. I adore this blog. It has improved my writing, it has garnered me a lot of friends, it has given me the opportunity to express feelings and share experiences and explore the world. It’s a huge part of my life.

But it’s also the thing I hide behind so as not to become bored with my job. In that way it has become a security blanket. As I enter my cronehood (using the positive definition of that word, “A woman who is venerated for experience, judgment and wisdom), I am beginning to realize that I’m a lot more multi-faceted and nuanced than I once was, and can therefore stave off boredom in a variety of ways.

And on days when I have writers block, or when there’s a situation at work that actually requires that I do something, this blog has been a huge stressor in my life. I’ve lost sleep over this blog. Sometimes it takes me over rather than being something that I’m in charge of and freely choose to produce.

I have been on this treadmill every day since December 1, 2012. And I’m not sure when it was that I lost all agency. It kind of snuck up on me.

And then the other day I was in the shower, thinking about a conversation I had had that day with a friend in which she was describing how she had lost her sense of smell so gradually that she didn’t notice it was happening until it was completely gone. While washing my hair I thought about that gradual shift, and suddenly realized that was happening to me, too, in blog form. This blog has taken on a life of its own, and it rules me and it’s stressful. When did I lose all control?

Am I ending this blog? No! I can’t quit you guys. And I do love to write. But I’m going to take some pressure off myself. Rather than grinding out content every single day, I plan to only write a post for the even numbered days. (See what I did there? Seven months of the year I’ll get two days off in a row! Woo hoo!)

I’m hoping this will bring multiple gifts to my world. It will allow me to get things done that I’ve been putting off for aeons. It will improve my writing even more in that it will bring joy back into it, and I’ll be able to dedicate more time to each topic if the spirit moves me. It will allow me, once again, to read. I love to read. I rarely have the time. And my eyesight is not getting better from one day to the next, so I should enjoy reading while I can.

And nothing is cast in stone. If I feel the need to speak out about something that’s time sensitive, I can always post it on an odd numbered day. And occasionally I get so inspired that I write and write and write. If I hit one of those periods of abundance, I might go back to daily posts for a time. We’ll see.

The point is, I can be flexible. I am the decider. And realizing that has already taken a lot of pressure off me. I feel liberated.

And who knows? Maybe it will give me the time to finally publish book two. If so, You’ll be the first to know.

So, this isn’t goodbye. This is just me saying hello every other day.

Namaste, dear readers.

Not really! Don’t worry!

The ultimate form of recycling: Buy my book, read it, and then donate it to your local public library or your neighborhood little free library! http://amzn.to/2mlPVh5

11 thoughts on “This Isn’t Goodbye

  1. Carole Lewis says:

    Something I learned about age eight. The quote “Elbow room cried Daniel Boone.” I have been known to say it out loud, and I know it is time for a break. Take it, it is well earned. And we’ll be here when you are.

    1. Thank you, dear Carole! You’re one of the biggest gifts I’ve gotten from this blog!

  2. Angiportus Librarysaver says:

    Well, I’ll miss having one every day, but I fully understand. You’ve kept up a demanding pace for coming up on 9 years, and you deserve a break. That way you can maintain the high quality of your thinking [and writing].
    It might not hurt either if you delete and ban those individuals who cannot provide anything other than a semiliterate and incoherent screed, nasty to boot. No one wants to read that. Me, I’ll try to keep it civilized.

    1. Thanks, Angi! I hope you’ll stick around. And yeah, normally I do delete the obnoxious people, but that guy from the other day kind of proved my point through his own hostility. But if he comes at me again, he’ll be blocked.

  3. CalicoJack says:

    Howdy Barb!

    I’m glad to see that you’re taking care of yourself. You had me worried that you’d either be taking a longer hiatus or gearing up to quit all together.

    I’ve seen too many good enjoyable blogs just lapse into silence, so thanks for letting us know what is going on.

    I could never PLAN on… well, anything. I can never just cut back. I’m more of the crash and burn kinda guy. Explains a few things about my life, so I’m envious.

    Huzzah!
    Jack

    1. Well, at least when you burn, Jack, you burn brightly! And no, I don’t see myself quitting entirely anytime soon. And if I disappear without explanation, do a search for an obituary.

      1. CalicoJack says:

        Oh dear… but, I’ve done it before.

        Jack

  4. cupitonians says:

    I’m so glad you’re doing what you need to do for your own mental health and to aid your own creative endeavours. I will continue to be your biggest fan online and offline! Can’t wait to read whatever you put out into the world. If you need any help, I’m only a short email away! Sending you big squishy hugs!

    1. Thanks so much, Anju! And the fandom is mutual!

  5. Lyn says:

    Glad you’re being proactive for your well being. Haven’t been able to read a book for enjoyment in five years, so reading and commenting on your daily posts wears my eyes out (but worth it). In a way, you will be giving my macular degenerating eyes a rest. Do catch up on your reading while your eyes allow. Going the audible route’s not the same as your own minds interpretation and large print books are limited and more expensive. Enjoy your time off, dear writer.

    1. Thank you, Dear Lyn, and I’m glad this cutback has a positive ripple effect, if only for your eyeballs.

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