The View from a Drawbridge

Tag: rejection

  • Flirting

    I used to like to say that I couldn’t get through the day without at least one good flirtation. I’ve had to scale that back considerably in the past year, because now that I’ve moved to Seattle without knowing a soul, the vast majority of my human contact is with coworkers. Flirting with coworkers is…

  • Keep Reaching Out

    So says a dear friend that I’ve known for 25 years. He’s now a continent away, and knows I’m struggling with loneliness in this new city of mine. He always gives wise, yet understated, advice. Yes. Keep reaching out. Even when you’ve caught your hand in a bear trap of rejection in the past. Even…

  • On Being “We’d”

    I felt like we were a couple of teenagers. My friend said, “Sooooo… did Adam ask you out?” When last we’d spoken, I told her about a guy I had met and clicked instantly with. We had everything in common, and he was cute, too. I was subtly hinting, and I couldn’t tell if he…

  • Writing a Dating Profile

    Okay guys, I’m starting to get my feet under me in this new city, and now that I’ve had a chance to lift up my head and look around me, I realize I’m lonely as hell. There. I said it. I don’t know anybody here, and while talking to my dogs helps, they tend to…

  • I’m Confident You’ll Want to Read This

    The other day I saw Katty Kay and Claire Shipman being interviewed on the Colbert Report. They were talking about their new book, The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance – What Women Should Know. It was a really fascinating discussion, and although I have not read the book yet, I plan to.…

  • I’ve got a Crush on You, Sweetie Pie

    Here’s an interesting thought: at least once in your life, someone has had a crush on you and you didn’t even know it. You know how I know? Because I’m quite sure that every single person who is reading this has had a crush on someone at least once in their lives and has kept…

  • How “Little Mary Sunshine” Looks from the Darkside

    A friend of mine recently posted a meme on her Facebook page that said “Slow progress is better than no progress.” My first thought was, “Great. That would be comforting if I were making slow progress.” The fact is, I have felt as though I haven’t moved forward in years. If anything, I’ve been sliding…

  • Having Your Heart Broken by a Career Choice

    I was the morning of the third day of my dream job, and I was so excited. My life was changing for the better, It’s a rare gift when you can have a job that you love. I fell in love with Dental Laboratory Technology as a student. I sold my house, left a 16…

  • The Art of Job Hunting

    After getting a degree in Dental Laboratory Technology and Management and applying to 198 Orthodontic Laboratories throughout the country, I give you this graphically symbolic depiction of my hunt for employment: Rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection, I’d love to hire you but I’m going out of business, rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection,…

  • Pardon Me While I Rant

    (Since I feel like a break today, I’m posting an article that I wrote which was published in Folio Weekly, a local alternative newspaper here in Jacksonville, Florida, in October, 2012.) I’d like to think I’m a good person. I have followed the rules all my life. I don’t smoke, drink, or do drugs. The…