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“We Accept the Love We Think We Deserve”
That is one of the main messages in the movie The Perks of Being a Wallflower, and it really hits home for me. My whole life, I’ve had a problem with boundaries, or, actually, a lack of boundaries. In essence, I’ve allowed people to step all over me because I was obsessed with being a…
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How Do You See Love?
I just finished reading Home to Big Stone Gap by Adriana Trigiani. Like many of her novels, it takes place in the mountains of Virginia. I have always wanted to live in those mountains, but fate seems to have eluded me in my efforts, so I figure I can at least read about them every…
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Why are Dogs Man’s Best Friend?
As I write this, snuggled up beside me is my best friend, Devo. As he snores gently, I contemplate the things we have in common. Neither of us is pure bred by any stretch of the imagination. We’re always happy to see each other. We both struggle with our weight. We love to take naps…
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Embracing Negative Emotions
“Few situations –no matter how greatly they appear to demand it – can be bettered by us going berserk.” Codependent No More, Melody Beattie Most of us have been taught that there are negative and positive emotions. Anger, sadness, grief and frustration are bad. Happiness, love, joy, and bemusement are good. Because of this, we…
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My Father Figure
On this, my 200th blog entry, which happens to fall on Father’s Day, I think it’s only appropriate that I write about someone whom I loved very, very much. His name was Ram Verma, and he was the closest thing to a father figure I ever had. I met him when I worked at the…
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Lying Down with Dogs
Here’s another one of my theories. There are two types of dog owners: those who allow their dogs to sleep in their beds and those who do not. Well, technically, that part is a fact. But here comes the theory part: you can tell a lot about a person by which of these two groups…
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Location, Location, Location
The first time I fell in love I was 19 and in Europe for the first time. Everything was exotic and new and delicious and exciting. We held hands and made out and explored that world and each other, and everything was magical. So magical, in fact, that the rest of my life has paled…
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Only the Best Dogs Need Apply
I’ve had many dogs in my lifetime, and somehow I always manage to have the best dogs in the entire world. It kind of makes me feel sorry for the rest of you, having to settle for seconds like you do. My dogs are always wonderful, fabulous, the most excellent creatures on the face of…
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“I Love You” Too Much
The general wisdom is that you can never tell someone you love them too many times. And I subscribed to that philosophy for years until I got a boyfriend who also bought into it–in the extreme. Dude must have told me he loved me 95 times a day, to the point it became irritating. Obnoxious.…