Applying for Friendship

I was sitting in a crowded little theater, waiting for a friend to do his one man show, and I was chatting with another friend. Someone asked us how we met, and my friend said, “She was advertising for friends, so I applied.”

It’s true. During my first storytelling experience, in front of a crowd of 150 people, I explained what brought me to Seattle, and at the end I mentioned that with my weird work schedule, I had yet to make many friends here, so if anyone had room in their heart for me, there I was.

Afterward she came up to me and said, “I’ll be your friend.” And she has been, ever since. A lot of really fun experiences with her would never have happened if I hadn’t spoken up. How lucky am I?

Sometimes, even if you think it should be blatantly obvious, you just have to put your intentions or desires right out there for all the world to see. “I’m looking for friends.” “I want to be in a relationship.” “I vont to be alone.” “I need help.” Whatever it is that you want, need, or plan to do, spread the word.

People cannot read your mind. I sincerely believe that the majority of misunderstandings stem from the fact that we often forget that simple point. We are so used to hearing the thoughts inside our heads that on some level we overlook that no one else can.

So my advice for the day is, SPEAK UP!!!

Don't worry. I couldn't read your mind even BEFORE you put on the tinfoil hat.
Don’t worry. I couldn’t read your mind even BEFORE you put on the tinfoil hat.

Author: The View from a Drawbridge

I have been a bridgetender since 2001, and gives me plenty of time to think and observe the world.

21 thoughts on “Applying for Friendship”

  1. I disagree. People (especially those who work for me) ought to know the things I want without putting me through the unnecessary labor of speaking about it.

  2. I would like to add that that speaking about how we feel and what we need, is also beneficial to oneself. Sometimes we must sort through what it is exactly we are feeling and if what we think we need, really is the healthiest, most appropriate option. Speaking about friends is an excellent example — you actually voiced this need absolutely clearly, with wonderful results!

    And by the way, I waved “hi” to your bridge on Saturday though it wasn’t your work shift! I went to the library for the Fremont Historical Society meeting, a bunch of fun folks!

      1. I bet they are! Ask them if they have any historical contacts that would know about the University Bridge. I know that President Roosevelt dedicated it in the 30’s when it opened, and I’ve been trying to find photos, but even his presidential library doesn’t have any.

  3. By posting his opinion Brian has spoken up and betrayed his belief that we should read his mind. Sorry he finds communication so strenuous that he wants others to do the work…especially with someone like me and my twisted perspective reading his mind… 🙂

      1. Since I don’t trust assumptions I actually read his mind…nope, not joking…he was dead serious…at least I think that was his mind I read…oh wait…I forgot to take off my tinfoil hat and must have been reading my own thoughts as they ricocheted back at me.

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